|photo from WeAreTeens Facebook page|
When someone being bullied tries to complain to a person in authority, that person, who may be well intentioned, usually approaches the alleged bullies about it, to receive a straight denial that such behaviour ever happened, often with aspersions on the mental health of the complainer. And the person in authority may wonder if they are right about that. So nothing happens. There may be picking apart of a series of trivial incidents, with the conclusion that "there's fault on both sides". No there isn't. If someone is being bullied it is NOT THEIR FAULT. Never mind if they are ugly, stupid, clumsy, incompetent, lacking in social skills, or all those things. No-one deserves to be bullied. No-one.
I believe tht adults are bullied every bit as often as children and teenagers are. It's just that bullying tends to happen within closed organisations - like schools - from which there is no escape. It happens in workplaces, but the person being bullied can leave, and very often does. Never mind, there will soon be a new victim. And it happens, especially, in voluntary organisations. Because you have chosen to join the organisation, you don't want to leave it. You don't see an alternative. There isn't usually an alternative political party with the same values, or charity supporting the same cause you believe in, or church which gives space to your strand of belief, round the corner waiting for you. And so you stay.
If you see someone being bullied, speak out. Shame the bullies, in public. It'll be easier for you to do it than it would be for the victim.
Lift up the stone, and watch them run.